Money Secrets, Financial Pressure and Delayed Milestones Are Reshaping Americans’ Relationships, TD Bank U.S. Survey Finds
Key Takeaways
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Financial pressure is affecting relationships: Nearly three in five respondents (
59% ) said they have felt scared or embarrassed to openly discuss finances with a partner, while68% said they feel pressure at least sometimes to appear more financially successful than they are. -
Money secrecy is common: Three in 10 respondents (
30% ) admitted hiding a purchase or financial decision from a spouse, partner or family member. -
Major milestones are being delayed: Three-quarters of respondents (
75% ) said they have delayed at least one major life milestone because of their current financial situation. -
Family financial support is widespread: Two-thirds of respondents (
67% ) said they have received financial assistance from family members or someone close to them. - Younger generations are feeling the pressure most: Gen Z respondents were more likely than older generations to report delaying major milestones and receiving financial support.
"The survey suggests money isn't just influencing financial decisions; it's influencing relationship dynamics, major life milestones and overall confidence," said Marc Womack, Head of Client Experience, Strategy and Governance, TD Bank
Love, Lies and Money
The survey suggests conversations about money do not happen as often as they should. For some Americans, financial secrecy goes beyond the occasional hidden purchase. Respondents admitted to concealing everything from bad credit scores (
Money Matters More in Modern Relationships
The survey also found that financial compatibility is becoming just as important as emotional compatibility, influencing everything from dating and marriage to how couples manage their money.
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Love Has a Price Tag: More than seven in 10 respondents (
72% ) said financial stability is important when pursuing a serious relationship, including41% who said it is very important that a partner be financially stable and able to help support the household if needed. -
Debt Can Be a Dealbreaker: Nearly half of respondents (
46% ) said someone’s debt or financial habits would influence whether they pursued a serious relationship. Millennials (51% ) and Gen Z (49% ) were significantly more likely than Gen X (39% ) and Baby Boomers (39% ) to say it would affect their decision. -
"I Do"... But Not to Shared Bank Accounts:
30% of respondents say couples should wait until after marriage to combine finances, while13% believe finances should always remain separate. -
Prenups Go Mainstream: More than half of respondents (
54% ) said they would consider signing a prenuptial agreement before marriage.
Financial Pressures Are Putting Life on Hold
The survey also revealed that affordability challenges are forcing many Americans to rethink the timing of major life decisions. From buying a home to starting a family, financial pressures are delaying milestones across generations, with three-quarters of respondents (
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Paying off debt (
23% ) -
Travel (
21% ) -
Buying a car (
17% ) -
Buying a home (
17% ) -
Saving for retirement (
15% ).
The impact is especially pronounced among younger adults, with Gen Z far more likely than older generations to have postponed major life milestones. A striking
Families Are Stepping in to Help Bridge the Gap
Financial support has become a reality for many Americans, with
Younger Generations Are Most Likely to Lean on Loved Ones for Financial Support
Younger generations were the most likely to receive assistance, with
Americans Remain Focused on Building Financial Confidence
While many Americans continue to face financial challenges, they are focused on building a stronger financial future. More than half of respondents (
“Whether it's navigating financial conversations with a partner, reaching a major life milestone or leaning on loved ones for support, confidence can be strengthened from understanding your financial situation and making informed decisions,” said Ashley Weeks, Wealth Strategist, TD Wealth®. “The survey shows that while many Americans face real financial pressures, they're also focused on taking meaningful steps toward a stronger financial future.”
Methodology
Talker Research surveyed 2,000 respondents, with 250 in NYC,
This random double-opt-in survey was conducted by market research company Talker Research, whose team members are members of the Market Research Society (MRS) and the European Society for Opinion and Marketing Research (ESOMAR).
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